What does it mean to judge? To judge means to apply a personal meaning on a subject or a matter. Judging is embedded in humans as a species. The quality of our ability to judge, in many ways, determines the quality of our lives. Think about how handy it is to correctly judge the…

Let’s say that Person A is in a long-term relationship with person B – they have built things together, their lives are intertwined through so many things, they seem glued to one another. From a distance, they seem to have everything going for them, only, person A feels there’s a huge hole in themselves that,…

Living in a state of mind that stems from emotional trauma is dysfunctional and unhealthy and it impacts our whole view of how we are orienting to relationship and how we’re showing up in relationship and that, most importantly, breeds suffering, pain, depression and constant unfulfillment. If we enter a relationship through attachment trauma, where…

Normal human brain function is to grief and then let go of something that has ended. There is a normal, healthy grieving process that takes place subsequent to any type of death – whether it is a person that died or a relationship or circumstance that has ended. Jumping out the wagon of this normalcy,…

How to Heal Co-dependency I wrote about two types of attachment style in my previous posts and that’s all nice and dandy. Now what? What do you do if you are one of the types in a relationship to the other? As with anything else, the key is awareness. Awareness of what? Each individual has to…